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Sunday, October 28, 2007

My B-day

Yes here is where I shamelessly plug that it's my birthday today!!!

Yay Me!

I went out with friends last night and had an absolute blast!

I decided to go to a place called Barcelona Wine and Tapas bar. I Love Love Love this place. The people there are friendly, the food divine and it's a great place to have friends. The Atmosphere is amazing and I just can't say enough about it.

It's a perfect place to start a night of hanging out.

Afterward we headed to Rowley's Tavern where we heard a terrific live band.

Great night all around!

Wednesday, October 24, 2007

I Like Harry Potter Books

I am not ashamed to say it. Now that being said, why is it that people are in an uproar over a fictional character?

One of my Favorite Online Potter haunts is The Leaky Cauldron They do a great job in keeping up with all things potter. I especially love their pottercast.

People (not all - but a determined few) have been going online to spew their hatred over finding out that Dumbledore is gay. So much so that they felt the need to do an interview with a member of GLAAD.Link here

People showing the degree of intolerance need to stop spewing their hate. If you loved the books before the announcement - Why would this change it???

Saturday, October 20, 2007

So tell me something I didn't know already

AP has done a story saying it's harder living paycheck to paycheck:

http://news.yahoo.com/s/ap/20071019/ap_on_bi_ge/stretching_paychecks

I figured most people would know this. But this issue hits hardest for the working poor. I have gone on and on about this, housing, food, everything costs more then even a year ago.

How do you save if your paycheck doesn't cover rent, food and basics?

How do you enjoy yourself, if you have to save for 3 months just to treat yourself to a birthday meal??

They keep saying the rich keep getting richer, the average wage increase in this country is 3% if you are a good employee. What's the rate of inflation?

It costs more to eat healthy then it does to pick up junk.

This is not just a poor person's lament, this is a Middle class crisis.

Wednesday, October 03, 2007

An Email that was sent to me

It seems that an article was written to Sister 2 Sister magazine by a Caucasian woman who requested a response from black men. I'm so glad she got what she asked for (and more) !!!



Dear Jamie:

I'm sorry but I would like to challenge some of your Black male readers. I am a White female who is engaged to a Black male-good-looking, educated and loving. I just don't understand a lot of Black female's attitudes about our relationship.

My man decided he wanted me because the pickings amongst Black women were slim to none. As he said they were either too fat, too loud, too mean, too argumentative, too needy, too materialistic or carrying too much excess baggage. Before I became engaged, whenever I went out I was constantly approached by Black men, willing to wine and dine me and give me the world. If Black women are so up in arms about us being with their men, why don't they look at themselves and make some changes. I am tired of the dirty looks I get and snide remarks when we're out in public. I would like to hear from some Black men about why we are so appealing and coveted by them. Bryant Gumbel just left his wife of 26 years for one of us Charles Barkley, Scottie Pippen, the model Tyson Beckford, Montell Williams, Quincy Jones, James Earl
Jones, Harry Belafonte, Sydney Poitier , Kofi Anan, Cuba Gooding Jr., Don Cornelius, Berry Gordy, Billy Blanks, Larry Fishburne, Wesley Snipes... I could go on and on. But, right now, I'm a little angry and that is why I wrote this so hurriedly. Don't be mad with us White women because so many of your men want us. Get your acts together and learn from us and we may lead
you to treat your men better. If I'm wrong, Black men, let me know.

Disgusted White Girl, Somewhere in VA



RESPONSE



Dear Jamie:

I would like to respond to the letter written by A Disgusted White Girl. Let me start by saying that I am a 28-year old black man. I graduated from one of the most prestigious universities in Atlanta , Georgia with a Bachelor of Arts Degree in Business Management. I have a good job at a major corporation and have recently purchased a house. So, I consider myself to be among the ranks of successful black men. I will not use my precious time to slander white people. I just want to set the record straight of why black men date white women.

Back in the day, one of the biggest reasons why black men dated white women was because they were considered easy. The black girls in my neighborhood were raised in the church. They were very strict about when they lost their virginity and who they lost it to. Because of our impatience to wait, brothers would look for someone who would give it up easy without too much hassle. So, they turned to the white girls.
Nowadays, in my opinion, a lot of brothers date white women because they are docile and easy to control. A lot of black men, because of insecurities, fears, and overall weaknesses, have become intimidated by the strength of our black women. We are afraid that our woman will be more successful than us, make more money than us, drive nicer cars and own bigger houses. Because of this fear, many black men look for a more docile woman. Someone we can control. I have talked to numerous black men and they continuously comment on how easy it is to control and walk over their white women. I just want to set the record straight. I want A Disgusted White Girl to know that not all successful black men date white women. Brothers like Ahmad Rashad, DenzelWashington, Michael Jordan, Morris Chestnut, W i ll Smith, Blair Underwood, Kenneth "Babyface" Edmonds, Samuel L. Jackson, and Chris Rock all married strong black women
And, to flip the script, there are numerous white men, in and out of the spot light, who openly or secretly desire black women over white women. Ted Danson, Robert DeNiro, and David Bowie to name a few.

I just don't want a disgusted white girl to be misinformed. Stop thinking that because you are white that you are some type of goddess. Remember, when black Egyptian
Queens like Hatsepshut and Nitorcris were ruling Dynasties and armies of men in Egypt, you were over in the caves of Europe eating raw meat and beating each other over the head with clubs. Read your history! It was the black woman that taught you how to cook and season your food. It was the black woman that taught you how to raise your children. It was black women who
were breast feeding and raising your babies during slavery. It is the black woman that had to endure watching their fathers, husbands, and children beaten, killed, and thrown in jail.

Black women were born with two strikes against them: being black and
being a woman. And, through all this, Still They Rise!


It is because of the black women's strength, elegance, power, love and beauty that I could - never – date anyone except my black Queen. It is not just the outer beauty that captivates and draws me to them. It is not the fact that they come in all shapes, sizes, colors and shades that I love them. Their inner beauty is what I find most appealing about black women. Their strong spirit, loving and nurturing souls, their integrity, their ability to overcome great obstacles, their willingness to stand for what they believe in, and their determination to succeed and reach their
highest potential while enduring great pain and suffering is why I have fallen in love with black
women.

I honestly believe that your anger is geared more toward jealousy and envy more so than snotty
looks. If this were not so, then why do you continuously go to tanning salons to darken your skin?
If you are so proud to be white, then why don't you just be happy with your pale skin? Why do you continue to inject your lips, hips, and breasts with unnatural and dangerous substances so you can look fuller and more voluptuous? I think that your anger is really a result of you wanting to have what the black woman has.


BOTTOM LINE: If I were looking for a docile woman, someone I can walk over and control, I would give you a call. But, unfortunately, I am looking for a Virtuous Woman; Someone that can be a good wife and mother to my children.

Someone who can be my best friend and understands my struggles. I am looking for a soulmate. I am looking for a sister and; unfortunately, you do not and CANNOT fit the bill.

No offense taken, none given.



Signed, Black Royalty


Why did I post this...because I need to know...why would anyone write a magazine and ask such questions. Why is it that someone would force a whole portion of the population to defend themselves? Really, is it a superiority or Inferiority complex?

Do you think it's petty, and think people should be happy with whom they are with?